How Do You Give A Handshake? Do You Know What It Can Mean?

Sometime in my final days in the university, I was fascinated by the wisdom expounded by a speaker who was a lecturer back then at a church gathering. I felt intrigued to get closer to this adroit man and express a word of appreciation for the knowledge he shared with us.  I forced my way through the crowd and finally entered the zone of this gray-haired man. He was attentively addressing some concerns from other participants, so I waited for a moment.  As he finished with them, I went closer with a smile and my hand stretched. Immediately he reciprocated with a smile and held my palm with a firm grip (not crushing). I told him, “I was thrilled by his message and that I’ve leant a lot from it.”

The crux of this moment that I want to emphasize is that, I had a pre-knowledge about handshake depicting your personality through a non-verbal communication pdf book I read. So this lecturer replicating this gesture confirmed it in my thoughts and upon subsequent meetings with other business associates intensified the belief for this truism in this approach.

Handshaking has been with us since time in memorial. Handshaking exhibited that am not armed or with no weapon. Handshake can also express trust, honesty and a symbol of peace. Handshake in other parts of the world signifies sealing of a business deal. Nowadays it is done upon a first meeting and a departure.

The dead fish is a type of handshake, where one of the people’s hands is cold or dank. This makes the handshaking uninviting and speaks of a weak character to the one with the soft and placid gesture.

The glove or politicians handshake is often exhibited by politicians. The initiator covers the others hand with his other hand during the handshake. This demonstrates trust and honesty, exhibited to a newly met person speaks otherwise.

The cover hand also from the initiator signifies the level or intensity of sincerity and trust when placed at the elbow or at the shoulder level of the other person. This is perfect when the people are close relatives or friends.

The knuckle grinder is when the initiator is crushing your hand; it’s normally from people with aggressive character.

The finger-tip grip is when the initiator doesn’t get the full arm or palm but the thrust falls on the finger tips of the receiver. This speaks of lack of confidence in the initiator himself.

Handshake sends a distinct message from both parties. Handshake shows your character or personality and that ladies are not an exception. The best is to thrust your palm interlock with the person’s hand and offer a firm grip but not crushing. It will worth it if you can practice with a friend and listen to his/her comment. Let your handshake speak for you because actions speak louder than words.

Many thanks for your time and until we meet again here; keep winning. 

5 REASONS TO AVOID OR STOP SMOKING MARIJUANA OR CANNABIS.

Marijuana, a versatile plant which has been with us since time in memorial and has also served many useful purposes like for medicinal functions; it fiber is used to make ropes, sacks and other useful materials.

 There are myths about the smoking of this plant “marijuana” or cannabis and some of these are; can help a student to study well, to open the mind of the smoker to be wise, to harden or make the smoker bold or courageous and when smoked, can send you to another state or world. I can say point blank that there is no truism in the above and any others that you might have heard.

As this stimulant drug has some good attributes, it also has some serious demerits. In my part of the world, I have seen and known that, many of the youth have fallen into the ill-usage of this plant. There is even an adage that goes “too much of everything is bad”.

What disheartens me the most is that, these people are between the ages of 15-28 and there is no doubt that these are the future leaders of our countries - who have acquainted themselves with this dream killer. It will interest you to know that, these youth who engage in the ill-usage and abuse of this stimulant are talented and gifted people. If they are able to stop this addiction, they unfold into astounding personalities in their communities and the world at large.

In my part of the world, the first thing that will be associated with a marijuana smoker is that he/she is going to get mad or the person is worthless or aimless. I personally do not side with this belief but since the majority of the people had believed and said it with their powerful mouths, as well as, expecting it to be so and some smokers have reflected in that light, it tends to be something else-of which will have a deeper meaning.

These are what I have experienced and observed about marijuana and I would like share to with you my reader.

• Lost of help; as we all grow, at times before we can stand on our feet, it will take the support from our parents and other relatives. But as soon as our parents and our relatives got to know that one has started smoking, they tend to lose hope and begin to perceive that this person is going to be a worthless and aimless being in the society. Who does not require or deserve any good thing or support. As a result of this, the smoker now has to find other ways and means to make ends meet. This makes him now join other smokers in the same ilk to indulge in social vices to make a living.
•  Tagged as a black sheep; when a person starts to smoke, definitely his attitude begins to change. There is a proverb that, “birds of the same feathers, fly together”, he now begins to move with other smokers and all they do is to go to the “Ghetto” (Where smokers meet to shares ideas and smoke the herb). Since this drug is illegal, the police also come in to arrest them because of the social vices some of them are engaged in. Which at times is pathetic and humiliating as to the way they are treated when caught – this attracts attention from the community to the smoker and this brings disgrace in the highest order to the smoker himself and the family he represents, making him been tagged as a black sheep in the community. 
•  The Spirit of fear; Since they are aware of the bad act they are engaged in, they are full of fear whenever they are in the ghetto or wherever they find themselves smoking. After they have even finished, some even are engulfed in fear and that makes them not to even come closer to other people, so they are mainly found in their own corner or with their counterparts. Mostly, they also don’t want others to know about this humiliating act they have entangled their self with, so then, I ask you my reader, and what state are they in? The Holy book says, “He did not give us the spirit of fear but of love and of sound mind”.
•   Respiratory and other forms of sickness; aside these physical faults smoking marijuana or cannabis causes serious respiratory problems to the smoker. The chronic usage can even cause cancer. This stimulant also dehydrates the smoker and he grows thin and never gets a fresh skin.
•    Loss of focus; I witnessed some smokers who had wonderful ideas to progress their life but as at now, they are as what they were last five years. Some have even upgraded to to the abuse of cocaine and their future and their lives are in a mess. What are you using your precious talent for? What are you going to be remembered for?

You are in this world for a particular and peculiar purpose-don’t allow yourself to be blinded and lured into a state of regret and misery. You have a critical role to play in someone’s life and the development of your family, your country and the world at large. “When an alligator comes out of the pond to tell you that the crocodile is dead, you don’t doubt it” – African Proverb

Until when are you still going to be a slave to this dream killer? Rise up and Wise up!!! Cheers and let’s keep in touch.